So, I was in Costa today when some lady decided it’d be totally cool to whip her tit out and attach a baby to it. While I was eating. Not cool, lady!
Don’t get me wrong, I love nudity, and I love tits. But breastfeeding is one of those things that not everyone is cool with, and some people don’t understand that. I don’t need to like the idea of breastfeeding, and I don’t need to be ok with seeing it either. It was really freakin’ hot, and I’d have been happier topless, but I didn’t take my shirt off, because not everyone is comfortable with seeing a fat genderqueer without a shirt on, especially while they’re trying to eat. Breastfeeding totally ruins the idea of boobies for me. If I were ever to date a woman that wanted kids, or who had kids, regardless of the whole childfree issue, I’d be totally weirded out by her boobies from then on.
This event actually coincides with a story I’m sure you may have come across by now. The editor of some baby magazine said she didn’t want to breastfeed, as it made her uncomfortable, because her breasts are an important part of her sexuality. Of course, all the moomies are up in arms about it. How dare a woman want to have an identity outside of ‘mother’!
Let’s be honest, tits are pretty awesome. Even a lot of gay guys quite like tits. It’s the way of the world. And if you consider your breasts to be part of your sexuality, then that’s up to you. I’m genderqueer, and I still love my tits. I love that other people love my tits. And if I get really creeped out by the idea of a baby getting anywhere near my tits, that’s my business.
Mama&Ellie Said:
on June 30, 2010 at 12:36 am
I used to be kinda freaked out by breastfeeding. Not so much seeing it as being freaked out to do it, although I wouldn’t have appreciated someone whipping out a boob. But then I had a baby. And tried breastfeeding. And it wasn’t the experience I thought it would be. So I feel like I can see both sides of the issue now – the woman who is just feeding her baby and the person who thinks it’s disturbing. I suppose I would qualify, in your opinion, as one of the “How dare a woman want to have an identity outside of ‘mother’!” women, but actually I’ve settled into a great place in my mommy life. I use my breasts as nourishment for my baby and they still have a place in my sex life as well. Two totally separate parts of my life. Body parts can have more than one function. I mean, guys urinate out of their sex organ. Kinda gross when you think about it.
Anyway, to the point, I feed my baby in public, but I cover up. I do it just because I’m not comfortable with strangers seeing my tits and because I understand that breastfeeding really freaks some people out.
Kristine Said:
on August 5, 2010 at 4:40 pm
Love it. I’d just read the study finding that “96% of women say they are ‘less pleased’ with their vaginas a year after giving birth.” Babies: destroying vaginas and boobies worldwide. Well, not on my watch. : )